A friend and former co-worker of Edie’s died a week after we
left on our road trip; she was sixty years old. Edie and her friend had spoken
in great length over the years about their plans for retirement and the
excitement they felt to begin working on those plans. The friend and her entire
family (adult children and their families) were planning on moving to Idaho and
wanted to be there before school started in the fall. She retired from her job
at the beginning of May 2015, ready to get her Nevada house packed up and sold
so they could begin their lives in Idaho; she passed away before May ended,
never having realized the fulfillment of all the years of planning.
When someone passes on, we can’t help but ponder about our
own lives, wondering how much time we have left and how many unfulfilled dreams
we will leave behind. It’s one of the reasons the two of us take road trips. We
want to see places we’ve only heard about and we want to have experiences that
take us outside of the box of normal, everyday living. We want to know what we
can do, not what we can’t do. Believing you can’t do something becomes a
self-fulfilled prophecy -- the truth is most challenges can be worked through
or around with a little creativity and a lot of fortitude. If we contemplated
every bad thing that could happen to us on the road as we drive, we would never
leave our house.
Instead, we put our faith in a loving Heavenly Father whose
presence we feel profoundly whenever we travel. And sometimes He blesses us
with miracles. Like when we pray that a horrific rain storm will ease long
enough for us to get to our next destination and the prayer is answered
immediately. While it may sound silly to others, our road trips have increased
our faith and reinforced our knowledge that we matter to our Father in Heaven
and that He is aware of every step we take.
Every trip we take changes and inspires us to some extent.
We have met people whom we will remember for a long time and, hopefully, some
of them feel the same way about us. There’s the waitress in Holland, Michigan,
who told Sandy that Sandy had made her day because Sandy admired the way the
waitress handled something. The waitress commented that no one had ever said
that to her before. Did it change the waitress’s life? Probably not. But for
that day we were sitting in the right restaurant at the right time to impact
someone’s day. Or the family from California we met in Washington DC while
waiting to enter Ford’s Theatre. One of our favorite memories will be the woman
who operated a home furnishings and antiques store in Richmond, Virginia. We
spent a long time standing in her store just talking with her about family,
traveling, and hair (we loved her hair style). She was organically beautiful;
she either had great genes or took great care of herself through diet and
exercise. We thought she was in her late 40’s or even 50’s; turns out she’s 67
years old. She really impressed and inspired us and she told us that we made
her want to go home and get her husband and travel somewhere. She hugged us
before we left.
Every historical site we visit impacts us, too. To see how
and where this great country was created reminds us that it is our
responsibility to make sure that people before us didn’t sacrifice and die in
vain so that we could be free now. We are free to live lives that matter, that
have purpose, that impact others in some small way, hopefully, before our time
on earth is over, in spite of our fears, worries, doubts, comfort zones, and
the need to procrastinate.
Personal growth and fulfillment comes from stepping outside of our
everyday lives and trying new things, even if the results aren’t what we
expected. There’s no failure in trying, but not trying will later bring
regrets. Wayne Gretzky said, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” So we
will keep traveling and trying new things.